by doityourwaytoday | Blog
When I gaze up at the sun, I understand that it shines on all living things equally.
It shines on the good, the evil, the ill, the lonely, and the elderly. It glows brightly at weddings. It shines brightly at funerals. It shined on 9/11.
The sun just simply is!
Is it possible for us to simply “BE”? And, more significantly, let others simply “BE.”
It’s so easy to point the finger. To blame and be blamed. To pass judgment, and be judged. To regard as strange or unacceptably weird.
It’s less typical to presume that everything has a purpose and that we don’t know all of them. However, we frequently have no idea.
None whatsoever- of what might actually be going on in their life.
In this age of social media wrath and hatred, an increasing number of people are opting out. Checking out on being humanitarian.
Instead of taking a neutral approach and adopting the “Live and let Live” philosophy.
I don’t agree with a lot of things I see online and what’s going on in this world. And, yeah, I am irritable at times. But then I reflect, and I ask myself Who is my anger actually hurting?
Anger, gossip, resentment, hate, and judgment don’t make us feel good about ourselves if they become our standard behavior.
It consumes us and renders us unable to empathize or understand. Even the ability to feel empathy for one’s own shortcomings.
We give others power over us, by the more we blame them for perceived or actual misdeeds against us.
Years ago, I dealt with some issues, and for several years afterwards, I found myself reliving those moments over and over again.
I kept feeding the resentment. Giving these individuals power over my thoughts. Living rent-free in my head.
Today, I’m making a diligent effort to maintain a healthy perspective on life.
It’s easier for me now to say to myself, “I’m a good person, with a good heart and with good intentions. They don’t have a clue, who I am! (Self-love)
When someone is rude, harsh, or just plain mean…
It may be possible they had a terrible day. It’s possible they’d received some bad news and weren’t feeling well as a result.
Who knows, I sure don’t. But it does work when you take the focus of yourself.
Being neutral also has the additional benefit of opening our hearts to forgiveness.
Now let’s not get it confused, Walking like the dead is not what it means to be neutral. Allowing toxic in your life is by no means allowing peace in your heart.
But by Not taking everything personally, not taking it all too seriously. Does help.
Rather than getting sucked into the turmoil, we should just “observe” it.
Because reflection, acceptance, and joy all need space. We need to find this space in our hearts and minds.
Let us aspire to resemble the sun more closely.
by doityourwaytoday | Blog
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Do you show Unconditional Love to Yourself?
Many religions teach us to be unselfish and to love our neighbors as ourselves.
Have you ever considered whether or not your next-door neighbor would like it?
Honestly, how much do YOU enjoy being alone?
When things go well, when we do the right things, when we act gracefully, when we are pleasant and satisfied with ourselves, we enjoy ourselves.
But what about the numerous other times? When you make a fool of yourself, what do you do? When you’re acting like a knucklehead? When you fall short or, even worse, act in a deplorable manner? When you’re embarrassed, and you’re not proud of yourself in the least?
Do you think you’re still attractive after that? Or do you give up in self-pity and guilt?
Simply put, is your love for yourself conditional or unconditional?
It’s a critical issue. It’s the question that determines everything in your life!
In general, you’re doing fine. Your very core, the part of you that is you, is amazing.
And chances are you strive your hardest to show that and to live up to your great potential (otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this).
It’s also possible that you’re not entirely effective in realizing your divine potential.
And chances are, this is precisely when you will regularly abandon yourself and stop liking yourself.
When you stop liking yourself, how does it feel? Let me give an example of something I read a while back.
Imagine children who are innocent, vulnerable, and open. Which one of them seems to have a friend? The One that is far greater, stronger, and feeling secure. Or the youngster who is shy and is entirely reliant on what seems to him like a giant companion.
However, once the child does something terrible, even if he isn’t aware that it is wrong, this giant buddy abandons him.
That friend is simply no longer his friend because he did something wrong.
The child would most likely stand there, alone, puzzled, and hurt, and its self-confidence would be completely shattered.
And, because the child trusts and likes the big friend, and because the friend appears to be a lot stronger than the youngster, the youngster will eventually agree with the big friend and desert himself.
Is that something you’ve heard before? Did this happen to you when you were a kid? Then you may be still doing it: abandoning yourself and also ceasing to love yourself every time you make a mistake. And it’s possible that even if you don’t do anything wrong, your self-confidence has plummeted to the point where you don’t trust yourself anymore.
You are both the youngster and that buddy. You also deserve genuine affection as that child. You’ve always done it well and will continue to do so. It’s the only thing you’ll ever require to grow, become beautiful, and blossom into your whole divine self. And the only One who can provide you with genuine affection is YOU.
How can you change and be satisfied when your close friend, yourself, rejects you? And who will cope with that scared, abandoned little child in you if you don’t?
Now, I’m not saying you’re always pleasant to be around. That’s a conditional statement. In some circumstances, you could be a complete jerk. Then you’re not going to be enjoyable.
You, on the other hand, are always charming. Unconditionally.
You might not always find it easy to have fun with yourself. And you can forget to like yourself now and again.
But there is something you can decide today: you will enjoy yourself unconditionally all of the time.
If you choose to love yourself again and again
anytime, you realize you are abandoning yourself, and you will be able to do so.
It does not entail that you consent to everything you do. In reality, unconditionally loving for oneself is what allows you to disapprove of your actions because you no longer have to react to them. As a result, it is the most effective instrument for assisting you to accept responsibility for your mistakes and make changes.
So, if there’s one thing you want to do for yourself, it’s to make a contract with yourself. Make a conscious decision: to be ready to love yourself unreservedly at all times. That is enough to change your life.
How do you show UNCONDITIONAL LOVE to yourself? Let me know In the comments…